Monthly Archives: February 2013
“Love is a temporary madness; it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion. That is just being in love, which any fool can do. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.” ~Louis de Bernieres (Captain Corelli’s Mandolin)
remember the context: it’s a father talking to his daughter about his love for her mother, his wife): Essentially it’s about that reckless “volcanic” love that we initially feel. Then the couple start to grow together – they don’t “fall out of love” ; rather it becomes more subtle. They begin to complement each other.
It’s not the wild passion of youth – that’s not deep true eternal love which develops through the good and bad times together in a true partnership. They grow together through shared experience and become a “unit” – no longer two but one.
This is true enduring love real love – after the passion of first love stops and becomes something deeper, almost mystical.